They say it takes a village to raise a child and while that is true, in the realm of infertility it also takes a village to get you that child. Lately, I have been receiving more and more local outreach, which I am so extremely pleased by. Afterall, providing local support was why I created this blog in the first place. So I thought I’d share our “village” with you since word of mouth is the best advertisement.
1. Women’s Health Associates, LLC New Haven & North Branford, CT ?? http://www.wha-newhaven.com/home.php (FYI: website is under construction, but you can at least find their contact information)
In prior posts, I’ve discussed how phenomenal this midwife group is. They’re just that good that I can’t help but reiterate it time and time again. My OBGYN group consists of four fabulous midwives, one of whom, Debbie Cibelli, actually delivered me almost 32 years ago! Given that she basically watched me grow up, she was very familiar with my case history and therefore was proactive in determining the cause of my irregular menstural cycles. Not only did I appreciate that and all the time saved, but she was also quick to refer us to a fertility specialist.
Some of you may be thinking midwife group~sounds a little earth crunchy and must mean no drugs. While they do specialize in natural deliveries, I loved their openness to whatever option was most comfortable for each individual patient. I ended up going completely drug-free but went in with a flexible mindset (AKA whatever I need to get this baby out of me!!!). They’re ability to naturally make the pain bearable was what helped me through. They also have great success rates in VBAC’s (Vaginal Birth After Caesarean) if that’s something you’re interested in.
Throughout my trying-to-conceive (TTC) journey, pregnancy, birth, post-partum and everywhere in between, these ladies were amazing; not just the midwives, too. The administrative assistants and nurses go above and beyond as well. While TTC and during my pregnancy, I had the pleasure of being seen by all four midwives and have nothing but positive things to say.
Of course, Laura Sundstrum, holds a special place in my heart because she delivered my miracle baby boy. Please, please, please take the time to read Mikie’s birth story if you haven’t yet. ? http://onprayersandneedles.org/2016/03/the-birth-story-of-miracle-mikie/
Just like love stories, every birth story is beautiful, but yours is my favorite, Mikie! Plus, you always hear the horror stories so it’s nice to hear a positive one once in awhile!
If that doesn’t convince you, then this will…Not too long ago I was talking to a labor and delivery nurse from Yale. I was saying how my husband and I were in awe of the labor/delivery and maternity floor nurses and staff after our experience. She asked who my OBGYN is and when I said Women’s Health Associates, she immediately said, “When the time comes for me to have a baby, I am definitely going to them.” If that’s not saying they’re the best at what they do, than I don’t know what is!
2. Yale Urology Center New Haven, CT ?? http://medicine.yale.edu/urology/
If you take nothing else away from this blog, know that a urologist specializing in male factor infertility IS your Fertility God if the issue is with your husband/boyfriend/fiancé. Which also leads me to something I’d like to emphasize: infertility is not always a female “problem”. In fact, male factor infertility makes up approximately 30% of all infertility cases.
I digress and get back to our Fertility God, Dr. Stanton Honig ?? http://medicine.yale.edu/urology/doctors/stanton_honig.profile Check him out! Literally his accreditation and accolades are never- ending. I remember, when we first received our diagnosis from my OBGYN, no matter what I googled along the lines of top doctor for azoospermia in CT, Dr. Honig kept popping up.
What I personally liked best about Dr. Honig was that he was always positive about the outcome, but realistic about how we would get there. He set out a timeline and stuck to it almost meticulously. He was direct, but sensitive to the situation, professional, but humorous in a way that made everything seem less awkward. The moment I realized how vested he is in his profession, was after my husband’s TESE surgery, maybe 5 minutes into the car ride, he called with the unbelievable news that he had found some viable sperm. You could tell by his tone of voice that he was genuinely ecstatic for us.
If you’re dealing with male factor infertility and are in CT, you MUST heed my advice and schedule an appointment. Note, he is in high demand and appointments book pretty far out.
3. New England Fertility Stamford, Danbury, and Hamden, CT ?????? http://www.nefertility.com/
My previous post titled Name or Number http://onprayersandneedles.org/2016/04/name-or-number/ goes into detail about the professionalism and compassion of Dr. Gad Lavy and his staff. Aside from being able to build a personal relationship with the nurses, I loved how Dr. Lavy explained our infertility scenario. He really broke it down, usually with some type of drawing or diagram. I’m a visual learner so I found that to be uber helpful.
In addition, they offer a patient portal so that your results are literally at your fingertips day or night. Even though, Dr. Lavy, nurses Jen and Susan, and the rest of the staff see countless couples struggling with infertility, they were not at all de-sensitized to the situation (which I find can often be the case). Being able to rely on them really relieved some of the stress. We would always leave our appointments feeling more upbeat than when we had come in,
If you are concerned that you may have infertility issues, New England Fertility often holds free fertility testing and seminars. Check them out on Facebook to get more information, if this is something you’re interested in.
I believe, wholeheartedly, that had we chosen another fertility group we may have not gotten the results we did the first time around or at all. Another pro for all of my Male Infertility Warriors, Dr. Lavy and Dr. Honig are buddies so they make a great team.
4. Craig Kelly & Jackie Kos of Kos Chiropractic North Branford, CT No website available, but you can like and follow them on Facebook to get more information ?? https://www.facebook.com/pages/Kos-Chiropractic/183543721708117?fref=ts
I’m actually embarrassed to say that I never got the chance to go and thank Jackie and Craig for all they did to make my IVF cycle a success…the first time! So hopefully, at least in part, this can be a way to say thank you!
My work wife at the time, who also happens to be a close friend, was literally my therapist throughout my infertility struggle. She was always a big fan of acupuncture. Literally, if you told her you needed to quit eating donuts, she’d say, “Why don’t you try acupuncture?” So after the millionth time of her saying, “I really think you should try acupuncture…I have a great guy,” I made an appointment.
Both Craig and Jackie were experienced in infertility treatments. They were very informed and the practice was welcoming. The waiting room was always jam packed, too, which is always a good sign. You can read my post, My IVF Tips http://onprayersandneedles.org/2016/04/my-ivf-tips/ Let’s just say, next time we go for an IVF cycle, I will definitely be there. In fact, maybe I should start now to have some relaxing me-time,
The next two are recommendations for during pregnancy. I know you’re not there yet and may very well feel like you’ll never get there. But you will and when you do, I can’t recommend them enough. They were part of our “village” in a way, too ,so I couldn’t not include them on the list.
5. Raven’s Wing Yoga Branford, CT ?????? http://ravenswingyoga.com/
Again, a little on the earth-crunchy side (which of course there is nothing wrong with) but may not appeal to the masses. Let me tell you though, infertility or not, every pregnant woman should at least give prenatal yoga a shot.
In the beginning, I, like most I’d presume, felt clumsy and foolish trying to hit some of those poses with an ever-growing belly. However, when it came to strategies for relieving the aches and pains associated with pregnancy, these stretches and techniques were spot-on; more like miracle cures.
I looked forward to my weekly hour of relaxation on Wednesday nights. After leaving class, I always felt lighter and re-energized. The real testament to what I learned in prenatal yoga was my natural childbirth. The knowledgable and experienced instructors taught me how to breathe into the pain and I used these breathing techniques during labor. They actually worked wonders. Prenatal yoga at Raven’s Wing is a pregnancy must-do as far as I am concerned.
6. Childbirth and Parenting Education of Greater New Haven ?? East Haven, CT http://www.childbirtheducationgnh.org/
Again, this does not only pertain to the couple who has overcome infertility. This is a call to ALL EXPECTANT COUPLES reading and please share. Even if you’re not in the New Haven area, you really should look into attending. Honestly, if you’re literally within a 50 mile radius and you don’t take advantage of this course, it would be your first parenting mistake-I swear!
First off, Louise Ward, RNC, MSN, who is part of the Labor and Birth Team at Yale-New Haven Hospital is as hilarious as she is skilled. My husband says that if she was his teacher in school, he’d be a molecular engineer; I’ve “diagnosed” him with ADD, so the fact that he was able to sit and attend to the two and a half hour sessions once weekly for five-weeks speaks volumes. We learned more in this course than I could’ve ever imagined, even if I had read 100 books. Classes were entertaining, informative, and interactive.
Louise was one of my greatest tools during my actual labor and delivery. She wasn’t there physically, but literally, I could hear her voice playing over in my head. She provided me with so much valuable instruction that I knew what to expect as I entered active labor, then transitioned. Her guidance was also another key factor in my ability to endure childbirth sans medication.
Aside from learning all there is that you need to know about childbirth, we took away a lot of other valuable information about the benefits of baby-wearing, dealing with “baby blues”, and infant care. We opted for the five-week childbirth classes (which also included a tour at Yale-New Haven Hospital) and the Infant CPR class. They also offer a variety of other classes, such as breastfeeding and car seat safety.
If you are in the local CT area and have been following, please share with others, especially on social media. Also, this is just my “village”. If you had your own “village” that you’d refer someone to, please comment below~I’d love to hear your recommendations! Most importantly, please if you or someone you know is struggling with infertility, please contact me so I can become part of your “village” to making a baby.
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